Medicine in the Words: Helping Your Brokenhearted Friend

If there ever was a time to show someone that you care about them, this would be that time. Sometimes the steadiness of friendship is the absolute best remedy for surviving the breakup blues. Here's a tried-and-true handbook for helping out that friend in need.

STEP 1: Make time.

Clear your schedule and be with your friend — ideally in person. After all, what's more important than friendship? If this isn't possible due to distance, then the phone is the next best thing.

STEP 2: Listen.

Let your friend talk, blather nonsensically, and/or sob uncontrollably. If he or she is not talking, encourage it. Let them know that you hear them and understand what they're going through. Just don't use too many examples from your own past relationships or you might shift the focus. The point of this exercise is to let them get it out and think it through.

Advice For Giving Advice

• Don’t be right, be listening
• Go easy on the ex
• Avoid clichés about time healing wounds
• Watch for danger signs
• If they flip-out, get help

STEP 3: Distract them.

Movies, sightseeing, wine tasting, outdoor activities, and games are good options. Anything involving physical exercise is particularly helpful because it stimulates their endorphins, which in turn can give them a sense of well-being. Plus, losing a couple of pounds can only be good for the self-esteem.

STEP 4: Spoil them.

Tell them that you need to have a serious discussion with them, and when they say, "About what?" tell them that you have decided to end the relationship.

STEP 5: Stay close.

When you've left them alone, send an e-card to lift their spirits and let them know that you're still there for them.

STEP 6: Be patient.

Some things take a long time to get over. You may get bored of the topic, the constant rehashing, theorizing, and hate-filled diatribes, but continuing to support them is what being a friend is all about.

STEP 7: Encourage them.

Once you feel that their pain has died down, help them break the pattern of thinking about their ex by encouraging them to date again. Sometimes people need a nudge. Send them a gift subscription to Yahoo! Personals. Then bring over a digital camera, make a meal together, and sit with them while they put their online dating profile together. Just remember, don't push too hard.

By Yahoo! Personals Staff Writer Todd Anthony