Getting Over Betrayal
Tom Blake answers your questions about dating and romance at 50+
How do I get over extreme anger at my previous close friend and lover who, as
it turned out, betrayed me? -- Anne S., 60, Houston, Texas
Anne, harboring anger is a sign you haven't healed yet.
Time will help you do that as well as an attitude check. The anger
does you no good, it's misdirected energy. You can't change the
past, only live for today and plan tomorrow. Often, when people
betray us, down the road the adversity we go through turns into
opportunity. It's hard to realize that when adversity strikes.
My wife cleaned out our home and left on Christmas Eve without
warning ten years ago. I was angry and upset. But, now, my life
is wonderful and I'm in the greatest relationship one could ever
hope for. This wouldn't be happening if my wife hadn't left. Forgive
and move forward. Prove to yourself that you're going to end up
in a far better place someday in the future.
Tom Blake has written more
than 600 newspaper columns on middle age dating and relationships.
His "Single Again" column is featured in the Orange County (Calif.)
Register. Tom is the author of two books:
"Finding
Love After 50: How to Begin. Where to Go. What to Do" and "Middle
Aged and Dating Again." He has made multiple appearances as
a keynote speaker at national AARP conventions and as a dating after
50 expert on the NBC show, Today. Sign up for Tom's free weekly
"Finding Love After 50" e-letter, read previous columns or order
books at www.findingloveafter50.com.
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