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Anny, 24, Tempe, Ariz.
Sure, why not? You have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain! I would be considerate enough to acknowledge that I am aware that I do not fit his criteria in a couple of regards, but I would most definitely go for it. I wouldn’t write an elaborate message. I would just send a quick one letting him know what caught my attention in his profile and invite them to look at my profile. Then, if he feels we may have a thing or two in common, he can go ahead and write back to me. Otherwise, have a nice day! It's that simple! |
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David, 29, Hampton, Va.
Of course you should check them out. Love is like a garden, you have to digit! |
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Christina,33, Albany, N.Y.
It depends on what the one or two things are that do not fit. If they are things I can live with, I would definitely send an email and see if there is interest. If I know it is something I cannot live with, I would not go for it. Issues that I feel strongly about will not change in the future, no matter how much I may like someone. |
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Steven, 35, Franklin Square, N.Y.
When I'm viewing profiles, I'm looking for attractive qualities -- a smile or eyes or background. You may not have everything in common, but you should always view everyone's profile and pictures with an open mind and definitely go for it. When it comes to dating and falling in love, it is a learning and growth process. |
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Molly, 36, San Diego, Calif.
Absolutely. Most people think they know what they want in a person, however finding the perfect person for you is a little more cerebral than trying to fit a written description. I know I am attracted to many different types of people. A great smile goes a long way. If someone is truly limited by their list of qualities, that isn't the person I am looking for, but it doesn't hurt to find out and maybe make a new friend. |
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Michael, 45, Sacramento, Calif.
Yes, always go for it. I actually like having some differences. Those differences open my eyes up to other things. Also, it allows relationships to have free moments. I hope those one or two items are not "touch points." Those are subjective. |
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Eileen, 39, Mount Angel, Ore.
Honesty's the best policy. I'd tell him what I thought and how I felt about his hot picture. Then I'd point out the reasons I wasn't what he thought he was looking for. Then I'd try to come up with something witty and charming to crack him up...Ta-dah! Then the ball's back in his court to decide. |
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Isaiah, 34, Cincinnati, Ohio
Go for it! You'll never be any less than you are now. To wake up next to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is inspiring. That is more than enough to not sweat the small things, and re-prioritize what you want vs. what you need. |
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Cathy, 46, Moorpark, Calif.
Yes...of course. I don't expect perfection and I don't think that men do either. |
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Robert, 52, Mill Valley, Calif.
Of course -- but only if her income exceeds mine, which narrows down the field to about thirty thousand women on Yahoo!. I would tell her that what I lack in finances, I make up for with credit card charges. Once she hears this, she'll forget all about the other differences...that is if she is like ever other woman I have used this line on. |
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Sharena, 34, Placentia, Calif.
It depends what the one or two things are. Is he perfect, however he's married? Not as drastic, what if he's 5 feet 9 inches tall instead of 6 feet? I have met guys who are actually 5 feet 7 inches tall who seemed to as though they were more like 6 feet 2 inches because their personality and hearts were so large. Then again, I've met 6-foot-2-inch guys who were like were 4 feet 11 inches to me because they had nothing going on inside. My ideal is not perfection, but perfect for me...and a great smile is a good start. |
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Ed, 40, Yarmouth, Iowa
I don't worry too much about a couple of differences in the "requirements" section of a profile, if she looks like she could be the one. Start emailing or messaging. I've found out there are lots of things I like that I didn't know I liked. |
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Gloria, 50, Rochester, N.Y.
Some things are non-negotiable. I've been initially attracted to someone's profile by their good looks, but if they're a smoker, won't reveal their marital status, have an age range that's totally ridiculous (like a 50-year-old whose age range goes from 25 to 40), arrogance in their profile, or a sarcastic tone to their writing, I hit the delete button. Good looks will only take you so far, and some of the most handsome men I've dated have been the most arrogant and sometimes the most shallow. One guy, I swear, cuts out magazine photos of male models and puts them on every dating site in town. He' has yet to send me a second photo. I'm afraid in person, he's really a 300-pound transsexual (not that there's anything wrong with that). |
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Mary, 51, Seattle, Wash.
Yes! Often when there is attraction on one end there will be attraction on the other. It just seems to happen that way (in my experience). If people find they like each other and there is chemistry, then often it doesn’t matter that all the so-called “requirements” are not met. And, even if the “dream” person doesn’t respond, I’d feel better about following my inspiration to write rather than not. Better to try than wonder. |
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Morgan, 54, Louisville, Ky.
Yes. It's always possible that she may get the same feeling when she views your photo and smile. Of course, it may come to nothing, however it's better to try than to wonder. Life is short. Go for it. |
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Cindy, 49, Juno Beach, Fla.
Yes. Go for it! You have nothing to loose. Always stay positive. |
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Nancy, 49, Scottsdale, Ariz.
Absolutely! It worked for me. I found the profile of a gorgeous man who was adamant about dating only people who were local to him. I lived in the next state. However, everything else matched up. I sent him a message anyway to get his attention. He liked my profile, we talked once or twice and, within two days of receiving my email, he flew to meet me. The chemistry was intense and suddenly, the distance was not a problem. Sometimes you should view the description in a profile as more of a guideline than a rule. It’s worth a chance! |
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Will, 58, Glendale, Calif.
My primary "chemistry" response is to a smile and the eyes that are part of that smile. If those draw me to her profile, I'll send a note and assume that her requirements can be flexible if she so chooses. It's only fair to give her the choice to respond or not. I wouldn't want her to miss the golden opportunity to know me, just because I'm too shy to try. |
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Valerie, 63, Sonoma, Calif.
Yes. |
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