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Tim, 41, Springtown, Texas
Communication, People! I hear it all the time about of how some guy treated a woman. You have to
be up front about the situation, for whatever the reason. If you're not as interested in the other
person as they are in you, tell them just that! It isn't that hard to do and they will respect you for it
in the end or in the beginning. |
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Kathryn, 34, Northville, Mich.
It's easier to let then know right away. If at the first meeting things don't look like it's what
you want, let them know, you never know, they may end up being your best friend (thanks Erik!). |
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Freddie, 56, Phoenix
If they are getting serious about you, but you prefer to remain "just friends", tell them
straight up... in a polite way of course. |
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Laura, 35, Los Angeles
I tell him that I'm not at the same place he is at. And if I don't like him I just have to
take a deep breath and say in the nicest way that I don't feel the same way. Honesty is the best
policy even though it is hard to do some times. It's better to get it over with then drag that puppy out! |
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Paul, 33, Los Angeles
I'm usually pretty serious when handling this type of situation. It sucks big time, but what can
you do when it's "Just Not There." Definitely letting someone down gently is my motto - I don't want
any bad karma coming back on me for any reason (I just put myself in their shoes) and show a lot of
respect when doing so. |
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Sylvia, Kingsville, Texas
I usually like to get to know someone first before taking it to
the next level, I would simply tell them, "I'm not ready at this
point to get serious with you. Let's take it slow." |
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Erin, 25, Santa Monica, Calif.
I normally will back off and not talk on the phone or hangout as much. I try and be "one of the
guys" to let him know that I'm not interested in him romantically. |
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Summer, 45, Dallas
Not well, I'm afraid...I'm always astounded when I don't feel chemistry and they do...I figure
they must detect the "flat line"!!! So I sort of allow my honest feelings to show...when I'm not
interested in seeing him romantically, I allow my disinterest to show towards the invitations he
extends. Or if I accept the invitation because of the nature of it, then during the date I behave as I
feel...platonic! If he doesn't pick up on any of this, then I say directly how I feel..."I'm sorry, sweetie,
I'm just not feeling that." ...or "I enjoy our hangin' out together, but I'm looking for a different kind of
chemistry when I think of a romantic partner." If he doesn't pick up on that, then I stop returning his phone
calls. |
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Jeremy, 27, Denver
Be honest! The worst thing a person can do is drag it out and pretend to be interested. Tell the
other person you don't think that things are working. Or tell them what you want and expect out of the
relationship. |
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Elaunda, 34, Lithonia, Ga.
I just tell them I think it is going to me more of a friendship verses a romantic relationship.
If he is a nice guy I might offer to hook him up with one of my girlfriends. |
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Christian, 27, West Hollywood, Calif.
Yikes, that's a tough one, and I've been on both sides. I think the most important thing is to be
straightforward with the other person and let him or her know that your feelings aren't the same as theirs.
It may seem harsh in the short term, but in the long term it will leave you both in a better position and
avoid any resentment or hostility. |
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Ronna, 35, Redmond, Wash.
I say I don't feel a true connection and would love to be friends if we share the same
interests. Being direct works. |
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